Your first relationship starts with you and it is the foundation of all others to follow. During hard times, I could either reject or alienate myself as they did or start to pay attention to what the little girl in me was trying to communicate back to me.
By acknowledging our inner child’s needs, we realize that there is still a love that needs to be extended to our deepest parts.
This little girl is the reason why it’s so crucial to learn to give yourself the nurture, love and care you would expect from the world. In this way, her primary needs are met and when others are around they don’t fill a void but add to a flowing cup.
3. Love comes from different places
Love comes in various forms and often through the least expected avenues. It can express itself through a friend, a stranger, an act of kindness.
It can come in the form of a beautiful sunset or as someone’s time gifted to us.
When we start to see the different forms of love it gives life a sweeter tune.
Let us start to pay attention to what is showing up for us.
4. When you learn what love isn’t, you can teach what love is
Love will always love you the way you need to be loved. It will sit with you in those empty moments and warm your wounded spirit.
Because I grew up where love was transactional, I decided to love with no conditions. By craving to be nurtured, I learned how to be a nurturer to myself and, in turn, to others.
We get to choose the characteristics we want to adopt and be those things we most needed.
When we learn what love isn’t, we can teach what love is.
5. They were your greatest teachers
“I have learned silence from the talkative, toleration from the intolerant, and kindness from the unkind; yet, strange, I am ungrateful to those teachers.” ~ Khalil Gibran
Your biggest challenges are often your biggest teachers, even if you don’t see it in the moment.
You would not be the person you are today if you didn’t have those lessons to reveal your strengths and gifts to you. Our experiences shape us and it’s up to us to decide how that shape continues to take form.
Our lessons are here to unlock our potential and help us be more of who we are. And we are so much more than we think.